Tips to help Adults with bullying, harassment or stalking:
Recognize: Learn the behavior of a bully and do research. Do not ignore warning signs.
Tell someone. Do not be afraid to stand up and speak out whether it is a boss, a friend, a spouse, a partner, or a family member. DO NOT REMAIN SILENT!
Mediate: Always try to mediate the situation if you can. Communicate and find out what the problem is. I find sometimes it can be easily handled and other times, sadly, impossible.
Social Media: If it is happening online, ignore, block, do not engage, and report. Save all tweets, message, posts, or emails for evidence if you need it to take possible legal action if things get out of hand when mediation or ignoring does not work.
Don’t Become a Bully: Do not go down to their level of cruel or harsh words or actions (bullying back), because that will make you no better than them. Tell them to stop. Remain positive, strong, and confident
Do Not Get Physical: Do not become physical unless defending yourself and you have no choice.
Take Legal Action: Notify the police and all law and legal professionals if the situation becomes is uncontrollable or you fear for your safety. Note: Document everything and keep all files and records as well as any witnesses.
Find Support: If you need support during and after, then make sure you get it. Go to support groups, talk to friends and family, take a class…whatever works for you.
Nine Tips To Help Students Prevent Bullying:
1. If bullied, tell your parents.
Telling is not tattling.
2. Tell a trusted teacher, counselor, principal, or have your parents talk to the school.
3. Do not retaliate or get angry.
4. Respond evenly and firmly or say nothing and walk away.
5. Develop friendships and stick up for each other.
6. Act confident.
7. Take a different route to and from school.
8. Avoid unsupervised areas of school.
9. Do not bring expensive items to school.
Five Tips to Help Principals Prevent Bullying
Effectively addressing a bullying problem requires a culture change. A true culture change takes time, but a few key steps to help principals get started:
- Practice What You Preach Don’t use your status as the school leader as the lever for change; instead, “listen before talking and reflect before acting” to ensure your staff feel valued (this is backed up by the NEA survey, which found an important predictor of adult willingness to intervene in bullying was their “connectedness” to the school, defined as their belief they are valued as individuals and professionals in the learning process).
- Assess the Extent of the Problem Survey students, staff and parents to find out how much and what type of bullying is going, as well as where and when, to target prevention efforts.
- Develop a School-wide Code of Conduct that reinforces school values and clearly defines unacceptable behavior and consequences. Empower bystanders — teachers and especially students — to help enforce it by training them to identify and respond to inappropriate behavior.
- Increase Adult Supervision Most bullying happens when adults are not present, so make sure they are “visible and vigilant” in hallways, stairwells, cafeterias and locker rooms, as well as on buses and the way to and from school for students who walk.
- Conduct Bullying Prevention Activities such as all-school assemblies, communications campaigns or creative arts contests highlighting school values to bring the community together and reinforce the message that bullying is wrong.
(These tips were adapted from articles by James Dillon from
- Principal magazine, Sept/Oct 2010 and
- from Principal Leadership,
Five Tips to Help Teachers Prevent Bullying
Even when a school leader doesn’t have a formal bullying prevention agenda, teachers can create safe, bully-free zones in their classrooms:
- Know Your School and District Policies on Bullying Do your part to implement them effectively.
- Treat Students and Others with Warmth and Respect Let students know that you are available to listen and help them.
- Conduct Classroom Activities around Bullying Help your class identify bullying in books, TV shows and movies, and discuss the impact of that bullying and how it was/could be resolved. Hold class meetings in which students can talk about bullying and peer relations.
- Discuss Bullying with Colleagues As a group, you will be better able to monitor the school environment. Discuss both bullying in general and concerns regarding specific students.
- Take Immediate Action Failure to act provides tacit approval of the behavior and can cause it to spread.
Five Tips to Help Parents Prevent Bullying
Parents and guardians are among a school’s best allies in bullying prevention:
- Talk with and Listen to Your Children Everyday Ask questions about their school day, including experiences on the way to and from school, lunch, and recess. Ask about their peers. Children who feel comfortable talking to their parents about these matters before they are involved in bullying are more likely to get them involved after.
- Spend time at School and Recess Schools can lack the resources to provide all students individualized attention during “free” time like recess. Volunteer to coordinate games and activities that encourage children to interact with peers aside from their best friends.
- Be a Good Example When you get angry at waiters, other drivers or others, model effective communication techniques. As Education.com puts it, “Any time you speak to another person in a mean or abusive way, you’re teaching your child that bullying is ok.”
- Create Healthy Anti-Bullying Habits Starting as young as possible, coach your children on both what not to do (push, tease, and be mean to others) as well as what to do (be kind, empathize, and take turns). Also coach your child on what to do if someone is mean to him or to another (get an adult, tell the bully to stop, walk away and ignore the bully).
- Make Sure Your Child Understands Bullying Explicitly explain what it is and that it’s not normal or tolerable for them to bully, be bullied, or stand by and watch other kids be bullied.