Nanny Debs Story!

Deborah Carroll aka Nanny Deb
from Hit Show Nanny 911
Stands Up and Speaks Out
for BKO!

I was introduced to BKO via Twitter earlier
this year and immediately wanted to
become involved in some way. Bullying
now is even more prevalent than it was
when I was a teenage, and it doesn’t
start or end in your teens. Children as young
as four are teasing others, being unkind,
and adults are using social media as a way
to belittle others to be unkind. It seems
as though every day we hear of teens
committing suicide, feeling as though their
lives are not worth living.

Bullying is dangerous and as a society
we are all responsible for putting a stop
to this. But the question is how? I don’t
have the answer to that unfortunately,
but I do think that together we can find
the answer. I believe it starts with us.
We need to be kind…to show the way.
We need to resist the urge to make
negative comments about others, the
way they dress, what they eat, or how
they parent. We need to take judgment
out and replace it with understanding.

We must teach out children that people
are good, kind, and that when other are
hurting we must not ignore…but help.
When we see bullying we must not
sit idly by or join to “fit in” but be true
to ourselves and defend those who
need it.

We all have a bullying story to share
whether we were bullied or a bully
ourselves. Let’s share it and use it to
help others. It is never too late to
apologize for our actions. We all make
mistakes and whether you were 5 or 50
when that mistake was made, an
apology can make all the difference.
Bullying comes from a place of insecurity,
and a person who bullies usually feels as
though they need to have power, to control.
Sometimes they were bullied too.

My bullying story goes like this. I was
10 and had recently moved to a new town
and knew no one. I started my school
feeling nervous and it obviously showed.
I had moved schools before, but within
the same town. I had prepared myself as
best I could at that time. I wore the latest
fashion and had everything I thought
I needed, but was new. I walked into
class with smile, tried to spot the
popular kids, tried to find where I
should fit in. I was doing ok, made a
friend quite quickly, and I thought I was
doing well until the day it changed…

The first incident was in sewing class.
We were all making a little patchwork
bag and one girl got up, walked towards
me and poked me in the behind with a
needle. I jumped and turned bright red
when I heard giggling behind me, in a
matter of minutes two other girls followed
and tears started to form in my eyes. I
was devastated, but my biggest mistake
was I never said a word. That afternoon
in the playground they came up to me and
started laughing, talking about how they
thought I would pop! It was cruel, mean,
and had an impact on me I don’t think
they even realized. I laughed as I walked
away shaking with tears in my eyes and
thought it was over.

Of course it wasn’t and there were a few
more incidents until they were caught
pushing me into a locker after gym class.
Then the children really feared the teachers,
their parents, and the consequences they
received for their actions…now unfortunately
this is NOT the case.

The internet has become a breeding
ground for bullying in its new form..cyber-
bullying. It is a way to bully without seeing
the impact, it is easier to hurt people when
you don’t have to look them in the eye.
I see it when I scroll through comments
on websites, people leaving anonymous,
hurtful comments about others. I hear
about it in the media, Twitter, Facebook,
police tracking people down after they
have made threats. It is a different world
now and we need to prepare our children
for it, prepare ourselves and make sure
we find a way to end it, with kindness,
with love, and the best way to do that
is with awareness!

Bullies Keep Out is important. We
need to spread the word that bullying
needs to end, spread the word that
there is help for those suffering, that
there are ways to help others. It is
NEVER ok to bully someone, NEVER
ok to feel bullied, NEVER ok to watch
or know of someone who is being
bullied and not help.

As Ghandi himself said:

“We must BE the change we
wish to see in the world”

photo posted on post-gazette.com

Written by Deborah Carroll
BKO Supporter & Advocate

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