More Than Just A Pretty Face

Written by Jenn Sadai

When will men realize that women are more than just objects to be admired or criticized for our physical appearance?

I’ve been on both sides of it, and don’t appreciate either. Recently a potential business connection added me on social media, so I accepted it. After he sent me a harmless hello, he immediately switched gears and started flirting with me. Instead of addressing me by my name, he sends me a private message saying, “Hi Pretty.” I agree; I am pretty, but I am so much more than that.

On the opposite end, I’ve had several guys I don’t know verbally attack my body because of the Cottage Cheese Thighs cover image. The book is about loving your body, flaws and all, so I’m proud of my dimply thighs on the cover. It took me a long time to truly love this body, and no man will sway my opinion.

It’s not just creepy guys online who view women as objects. The President of the United States just proved his sexist views by singling out an attractive reporter during a press conference in the oval office. Instead of commenting on her professionalism or experience, he interrupted his important call to comment on her beautiful smile. Of course, the 45th President of the United States has had many similar incidents, including his disgusting commentary from the Billy Bush Access Hollywood tapes. When someone in power does it without any consequences, it teaches other men that it’s acceptable behavior.

As a woman who has spent most of her career in male dominated fields, I see this over and over again. The guys in the office or shop will dissect and rank every female co-worker based on her physical appeal. It’s rare to hear them comment on a woman’s skills or intelligence, but it’s always a hot topic if her pants are too tight or if her shirt dips low enough to expose a little cleavage.

Some people will argue that men are hormonal and they can’t help their reaction. There are also some who argue that there are women who view men as objects as well. These are merely excuses that are used to justify the behavior. Most men can control their hormones. Most women don’t objectify men. However, most men still objectify women. That’s the real problem.

We need to stop accepting it as normal. A women’s worth should not be based on her outer shell. If men were valued strictly on their looks, the 45th President of the United States would never have been elected. In fact, he should never have been elected because of his sexist remarks. Our society must stop brushing this off as boys being boys. Women deserve better.

 

Jenn Sadai is a Canadian author and advocate who’s just crazy enough to think she can change the world. Jenn shares her stories of surviving domestic violence, depression, and workplace bullying in hopes that it will help others cope and heal. She is the author of Dark Confession of an Extraordinary, Ordinary Woman, Dirty Secrets of the World’s Worst Employee, and Cottage Cheese Thighs. Website

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